Above is a clip from the episode "Dance Dance Revelation". This clip depicts both "direct aggression" as well as "disagreeing messages". Direct aggression is a criticism or demand that is made that threatens the face of the person whom it is directed at. Disagreeing messages are messages that communicate that the other person is wrong in an aggressive manor.
Phil’s initial response is to be directly aggressive. He demonstrates this by grabbing the bottle from the worker. He also couples this with the disagreeing messages by emphasizing how he spritzed before saying men and since it was implied as a question. Even though the conflict that arises is short, it is packed with these confrontational styles of communicating.
So this may not be the best way to handle things in the even that you do not want to be taken into custody the way that Phil reacts in an over exaggerated way of depicting this concept of direct aggression and disagreeing messages.
Update: I was at the mall earlier this week and discovered a little scuffle taking place my the perfume counter that I admittedly, could not take my eyes off of and ended up the awkwardly placed onlooker. Allow me to set the scene… Tuesday afternoon, Macy’s perfume counter. What I would consider a mid-forties woman walks past another woman working the perfume department gets misted with the ‘Eau De Toilet” sent of some designer spritz. As the woman went to mist the little cardboard sheet she missed most of it and it ended up directly hitting the woman to her left. Next thing I hear is, “Are you fricken kidding me!?” “Great! Now I am gonna break out in hives!” As I try to divert my attention with no such luck the now itchy floral smelling woman grabs the cardboard sheet and shakes it at her while saying, “You spray THIS! Not me!” That was about the end of it besides the spritzer lady trying to make apologies though the other woman’s muttering of profanities. Evidently, this kind of communication is not just “made for T.V.” It happens!
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